Many people still think that Russian or Ukrainian women are mail-order brides.

They believe that a Russian mail-order bride will marry any man, of any age, occupation, and personal virtues, just to get out of Russia. The mail-order bride service is interpreted by most people as a service that "sells women", a service that is neither respectable nor trustworthy. Some men still believe they can point their finger at any woman and she must marry him because he paid for her address!

The truth is that women on this site and all Russian women and Ukrainian women looking for foreign husbands are just lonely hearts seeking soul mates to share their feelings and every day life. Many Russian women are not looking for a man to live with, but a man they can't live without. They are romantic and eager to love.

 

 

Marriage between Russian woman and her foreign husband is a marriage first of all.

It is the joining of two lives (often, two families) to create a new life and a new family together. It can be an enormous source of bliss and blessings and love. However, it is always an enormous challenge of mutual self-sacrifice for the good of the other spouse and for the good of the family. Marriage really is the adventure of a lifetime.

Second, it is an adventure with a twist. The spouses are foreigners to each other. The two people come from different languages and different cultures; therefore, they have different ways of seeing and understanding and feeling about the world. This is in addition to the basic differences between men and women and between individuals overall.

 

Marriage to a Russian woman requires extra work at mutual respect and mutual understanding. Learning each other’s cultures and languages (even just a few words) can help immensely in building and maintaining mutual respect and understanding. (Language is very important: it is not just another way to talk; it is another way to think and to feel.) Also, extra effort (and expense) is required to include both sides of the family into the couple’s life: language, culture, long distance telephone calls, visits etc.

 

Husbands of Russian women must be extra sensitive to the huge amount of work facing the foreign spouse: leaving a previous language, culture, friends, family, home, etc. in order to adopt a new language, a new culture, a new set of friends and to make a new family and a new home. Men must learn to sense when to give the Russian woman some “space” (time alone) in order to “breathe” (to have a break from the pressure of a new culture). However, the man must also be sensitive to when his Russian wife needs to be brought into the culture (so that the foreign spouse does not hide from the new culture).

 

There are some Myths about Russian women marriage.

 

That is not true. Russian women are women who happen to be from another nation. Thus, they are not sex slaves; European or American men who want a sexual fantasy should look elsewhere for that. Thus, they are not house slaves; men who want a maid should hire a maid. And, they are not waiting for “just you” to walk into their lives; men who want that should buy a pet dog. Etc.

 

"Traditional values" usually means a desire for traditional family roles: the man is the provider and the protector for the family, and the woman takes care of the family (especially the children). Some Russian and Ukrainian women (like some European women) have "traditional values," and some do not. Also, some foreign women have traditional values, but then they change their values. That sometimes happens when they come to America (or another Western nation) and realize that they can have something different in life than a traditional role.

 

Russian Women have the strength of pioneers, and they usually have the values of pioneers (even if they do not know that about themselves, and even if they look more like a fashion model or "the girl next door"). With their different backgrounds, life with them will not be dull. And, life with them will require extra work. However, life with them also gives extra benefits: in strength of character, values, and richness of seeing and experiencing life.

 

The key to all of this, of course, is the key for any marriage: time. Successful marriages seem to have three qualities: capability, compatibility and commitment. The couple must be capable: they must be mature enough and otherwise able to meet the responsibilities of marriage. The couple must be compatible: two people can love each other, but they might not be able to live with each other; a married couple must be able to live with each other in all ways. The couple must be committed: they must be determined to meet their vows, through love, no matter what occurs in life.

If you are ready to work hard building your relationship with Russian woman, if you both are patient and emotionally stable, you have a chance to create a wonderful and harmonious marriage.